Soften or Release Judgement

In a follow-up, to last week’s blog on self-judgment, this blog is about a growth mindset.  A growth mindset allows you to see that you did your best.

How successful were you last week with softening or releasing any judgments? I cannot stress enough how the awareness of this habit can be the antidote to change. The process of seeing the judgment shows yourself the same compassion that you would for anyone else.

Believe you can… and you are halfway there. ~ Theodore Roosevelt

Growth vs Fixed Mindset

Some of us need more, it’s hard to give yourself credit or to see how far you’ve come. We think anything less than perfect is seen as a failure. Likewise, when starting something new, we expect to be an expert right out of the gate.

While I could talk for hours about perfectionism, impractical expectation, and unrealistic timelines, I am going to skip ahead.  Skip ahead and invite you to take on the idea of a growth mindset.

With a growth mindset, you allow yourself to see that you did your best, not that it had to be the best.  In that, you acknowledge that it’s not your “forever” best.

Growth Mindset

  • Failure is a growth opportunity.
  • I can learn to do anything.
  • Challenges help me grow.
  • My effort & attitude help to determine my abilities.
  • I like to try new things.
  • Feedback is constructive.
  • I am inspired by others’ success.

Fixed Mindset

  • Failure is the limit of my abilities.
  • I’m either good at it or I’m not.
  • My potential is predetermined.
  • I give up when I’m frustrated.
  • Feedback & criticism are personal.
  • I stick to what I know.

Remember, we are a work in progress, so release the perfectionism.  If the growth mindset feels like going from 0 to 100 mph, step it back and slow it down.  One easy exercise to start growing your “growth mindset” is to add “yet” to the end of your defeated thoughts.  Examples: I’m not good at that yet; I can’t do that yet;I am not organized yet; and on, and on, and on.

Try this on! Now, look at how a previous thought of what was the “truth,” can now be open to adding more to the story.

Are you still, struggling? Want help working on a growth mindset?  Let’s Chat!


P.S. If you didn’t catch last week’s post, I invite you to click the link to read it:  Show Your Compassion